comfy-aimdo 0.2 - Improved pytorch allocator integration (#12557)

Integrate comfy-aimdo 0.2 which takes a different approach to
installing the memory allocator hook. Instead of using the complicated
and buggy pytorch MemPool+CudaPluggableAlloctor, cuda is directly hooked
making the process much more transparent to both comfy and pytorch. As
far as pytorch knows, aimdo doesnt exist anymore, and just operates
behind the scenes.

Remove all the mempool setup stuff for dynamic_vram and bump the
comfy-aimdo version. Remove the allocator object from memory_management
and demote its use as an enablment check to a boolean flag.

Comfy-aimdo 0.2 also support the pytorch cuda async allocator, so
remove the dynamic_vram based force disablement of cuda_malloc and
just go back to the old settings of allocators based on command line
input.

comfy/model_management.py

@@ -836,7 +836,7 @@ def unet_inital_load_device(parameters, dtype):
 
     mem_dev = get_free_memory(torch_dev)
     mem_cpu = get_free_memory(cpu_dev)
-    if mem_dev > mem_cpu and model_size < mem_dev and comfy.memory_management.aimdo_allocator is None:
+    if mem_dev > mem_cpu and model_size < mem_dev and comfy.memory_management.aimdo_enabled:
         return torch_dev
     else:
         return cpu_dev
@@ -1121,7 +1121,6 @@ def get_cast_buffer(offload_stream, device, size, ref):
             synchronize()
             del STREAM_CAST_BUFFERS[offload_stream]
             del cast_buffer
-            #FIXME: This doesn't work in Aimdo because mempool cant clear cache
             soft_empty_cache()
         with wf_context:
             cast_buffer = torch.empty((size), dtype=torch.int8, device=device)