Eliminate duplicate TLS keys for loader_life_support stack (#3275)

* Eliminate duplicate TLS keys for loader_life_support stack

This revises the existing fix for
https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/issues/2765 in
https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/pull/3237 to reduce the amount of
TLS storage used.

The shared TLS key is stored in two different ways, depending on
`PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION`.  If `PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION ==
4` (as is currently set), the TLS key is stored in the
`internal::shared_data` map to avoid breaking ABI compatibility.  If
`PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION > 4`, the TLS key is stored directly in
the `internals` struct.

* Fix test_pytypes.py::test_issue2361 failure on PyPy3.7

* Add github actions tests for unstable ABI

CMakeLists.txt

@@ -89,6 +89,9 @@ endif()
 option(PYBIND11_INSTALL "Install pybind11 header files?" ${PYBIND11_MASTER_PROJECT})
 option(PYBIND11_TEST "Build pybind11 test suite?" ${PYBIND11_MASTER_PROJECT})
 option(PYBIND11_NOPYTHON "Disable search for Python" OFF)
+set(PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION
+    ""
+    CACHE STRING "Override the ABI version, may be used to enable the unstable ABI.")
 
 cmake_dependent_option(
   USE_PYTHON_INCLUDE_DIR
@@ -183,6 +186,10 @@ if(NOT TARGET pybind11_headers)
 
   target_compile_features(pybind11_headers INTERFACE cxx_inheriting_constructors cxx_user_literals
                                                      cxx_right_angle_brackets)
+  if(NOT "${PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION}" STREQUAL "")
+    target_compile_definitions(
+      pybind11_headers INTERFACE "PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION=${PYBIND11_INTERNALS_VERSION}")
+  endif()
 else()
   # It is invalid to install a target twice, too.
   set(PYBIND11_INSTALL OFF)