CI fixes (#1744)

* Fix warning that not including a cmake source or build dir will be a fatal error (it is now on newest CMakes)
    * Fixes appveyor
* Travis uses CMake 3.9 for more than a year now
* Travis dropped sudo: false in December
* Dropping Sphinx 2
- clang7: Suppress self-assign warnings; fix missing virtual dtors
- pypy:
  - Keep old version (newer stuff breaks)
  - Pin packages to extra index for speed
- travis:
  - Make docker explicit; remove docker if not needed
  - Make commands more verbose (for debugging / repro)
  - Make Ubuntu dist explicit per job
- Fix Windows
- Add names to travis

tests/test_smart_ptr.cpp

@@ -336,7 +336,9 @@ TEST_SUBMODULE(smart_ptr, m) {
 
     // test_shared_ptr_gc
     // #187: issue involving std::shared_ptr<> return value policy & garbage collection
-    struct ElementBase { virtual void foo() { } /* Force creation of virtual table */ };
+    struct ElementBase {
+        virtual ~ElementBase() { } /* Force creation of virtual table */
+    };
     py::class_<ElementBase, std::shared_ptr<ElementBase>>(m, "ElementBase");
 
     struct ElementA : ElementBase {